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I-Statements for Kids

Quick Answer

I-statements help kids share feelings without blaming: "I feel ___ when ___. I want ___." For example, "I feel mad when you take my blocks. I want a turn." Teach the sentence frame, practice with pretend problems, and model I-statements yourself.

What it looks like by age

  1. 4

    Age 4

    Can say a short version: "I feel mad!"

  2. 5–6

    Age 5–6

    Can use the full frame with a prompt card.

  3. 7–8

    Age 7–8

    Can use I-statements on their own in conflicts.

Why it happens

Blaming words ("You're mean!") start fights. I-statements focus on feelings and needs, making it easier for others to listen and help.

What to say

  • "Try: 'I feel ___ when ___.'"

  • "What do you want to happen?"

  • "Say it to your brother, not to me."

  • "I feel frustrated when shoes are on the stairs. I want them in the basket."

Instead of… try…

Tap a card to flip it.

Try it together

At home

10 min

Feelings Sentence Card

In the classroom

15 min

I-Statement Relay

☀️ Sunny's Shine Challenge

Model one I-statement out loud with your child today.

Questions parents and teachers ask

What is an example of an I-statement for kids?

"I feel sad when you don't let me play. I want to join in."

What age can kids use I-statements?

Many can start a simple version around 4 or 5 with practice.

Sunny says

Sunny the Panda listening kindly
“I feel sad when my bamboo gets taken. I want a turn, please!”

Written by Audrey Bell-Kearney

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