Conflict Resolution for Kindergarten
Quick Answer
Kindergarteners can learn a four-step conflict plan: stop and calm down, say how you feel, listen to the other person, and pick a solution together (take turns, share, trade, or get help). Practice it with puppets and use a 'peace spot' where kids can work it out.
What it looks like by age
- 4
Age 4
Needs an adult to guide every step.
- 5–6
Age 5–6
Can follow the steps with prompts and picture cues.
- 7–8
Age 7–8
Can solve many small conflicts on their own.
Why it happens
Young children have conflicts many times a day. A simple, repeated plan helps them solve problems with words instead of grabbing or hitting.
What to say
"Let's take a breath first."
"Tell your friend how you feel."
"Now listen to how she feels."
"What's a solution you both like?"
Instead of… try…
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Try it together
At home
10 minPeace Spot
In the classroom
15 minPeace Table Puppets
☀️ Sunny's Shine Challenge
Use the four peace steps the next time siblings or friends disagree.
Questions parents and teachers ask
How do you teach conflict resolution to young children?
Teach a short, repeated set of steps and practice them with role-play.
What are common solutions for kids' conflicts?
Take turns, share, trade, play together, use a timer, or ask a grown-up for help.
Sunny says
“Pip and I both wanted the swing. We used a timer — fair and square!”
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